Talking dirty is an easy, exciting way to change the dynamic of any interaction in seconds — and this translates to webcam beautifully.
Dirty talk can help increase your earning potential without any fiscal outlay. Dialogue allows you to develop your performance brand, and it also gives you a creative outlet to show off to your audience. Incorporating dirty talk is a multi-layered, all-around win.
But I feel silly
One of the biggest hurdles when approaching dirty talk is overcoming nerves. It’s easy to feel silly or self-conscious if you’re new to sexual dialogue. In everyday life, we don’t necessarily use such graphic language, so how can we jump this obstacle?
British cam model Ruby Rousson shared how she coped with the initial nerves of introducing dirty talk into her shows.
“Initially, I read a bunch of erotica, talked to myself around the house to get used to the words and watched porn with decent story lines,” Rousson explained. “But then I realized none of it matters because the people you’re talking to will lead you in their fantasy, and dirty talk is essentially just packing a semi-coherent sentence around a few buzzwords that person enjoys.”
This highlights the beauty of dirty talk. It’s an easy way to buy into someone’s fantasy or fetish with minimal effort. You can make a performance feel more personal and audience-centric by using language you know will specifically push their buttons, even if the actual performance is a variation on a theme.
— Mistress Rousson (@MistressRousson) August 18, 2017
But I don’t know the role to play
New York-based cam model Chloe Venom outlined pushing fantasy-specific buttons.
“I use role-playing in order to set the scene and set up my dominance,” Venom said. “I do some vanilla clips, but I want to create more fetish stuff and that includes a ton of talking.”
Venom also used techniques such as watching other performers and talking at home while alone to overcome her initial nerves. She had some great advice for models new to dirty talk.
“The best advice I can give is be authentic to yourself and your brand,” she shared. “Don’t be bullied into saying something you don’t want to, and you’ll find your rhythm… Try not to go too in-depth until you get more comfortable. Keep it simple. You can narrate what you’re doing, seeing, smelling. Use the five senses to create an experience.”
Being comfortable with your dialogue is vital to its authenticity. If you aren’t happy with what you’re saying, this will translate straight into your performance. Don’t be tempted to test your personal boundaries more than you’re comfortable with.
— Chloe Venom (@chloe_venom) August 1, 2017
Is dirty talk worth it?
Is talking dirty an element worth adding to your performance?
“You can definitely get by as a cam model without the stereotypical talking dirty on camera,” Rousson offered. “However, it is a useful tool to have in your toolbox, particularly as most people want jerk-off instructions. Also, it opens up another avenue of revenue, because if you can talk dirty on camera you can look to making clips with talking elements in them.”
Talking dirty can be as easy as narrating your own actions or as complicated as building a fantasy dialogue or role-play. It’s free and versatile, giving you the option to tailor your show to a specific audience without too much effort.
But that doesn’t mean it’s for everyone. Venom said it wasn’t her personal preference to talk dirty during performances. She prefers to focus on the pleasure as opposed to “building plot.”
“Fans definitely love it when I talk,” she explained. “One of my most popular videos includes a cum countdown, which they really love.”
Dialogue in a show increases the potential for revenue — and that has got to be worth trying.
Based on what we learned form Venom and Rousson, here’s a breakdown of key tips for dirty-dialogue newbies:
- Practice when alone, maybe in front of the mirror so you can get an idea how it looks and feels.
- Get the giggles out before you go live. If you find during your practice that certain phrases trip your giggle switch, leave them out of your chat.
- Watch porn and other performers to get an idea of the kind of dialogue you’d be comfortable with in your own shows.
- Don’t be tempted to dip into topics or fetishes with which you’re uncomfortable.
- Read erotica to help you create some creative descriptive elements essential for fantasy dialogue.
- Start small. Begin by describing how you feel and what you’re doing. With your increasing comfort, your confidence will grow.
With a little practice, any performer can be talking on cam like a big-screen actor in the run-up to awards season.
Find Ruby Rousson on Twitter at @MistressRousson.
Find Chloe Venom on Twitter at @chloe_venom.
Katy Seymour is a super-sex-positive writer in the U.K. who believes kink is life. Email her at email@example.com.
Image © Ekaterina Shvaygert.