There are a plethora of benefits to being an adult entertainer in 2020. The internet has virtually made being a free spirit and independent business owner a wonderful opportunity for many. Nothing is ever all sunshine and roses though, and there are some bigger social issues that interject themselves into online sex work.
As women, there are definitely complications that we face in being able to cam and create content on a daily basis. To add an additional layer to this, the inevitable physical, mental and emotional struggles that occur as every person goes through the aging process can be complex for women in the adult industry.
Being a middle-aged woman in this business has proven challenging. Our live cam appearances require a certain level of energy to have a successful and positive interaction with our fans. Menopause can make that extremely difficult. Between hot flashes, low energy, mood swings, vaginal dryness, weight gain, loss of sex drive, loss of hair and loss of memory, you can feel like you are stuck in an elevator that is plummeting 100 floors!
To add icing to the cake, as if all of the other craziness happening with your body isn’t enough, you are faced with tolls of aging to your vanity. Crows feet, wrinkles, cellulite and other beauty changes can make you feel as if maybe your time is up. But let me tell you: It’s definitely not!
The Plus Side to Aging and Menopause?
I know, I know — You’re thinking “Plus side? Don’t you mean ‘plus sides’!”
No more monthly visits from Aunt Flow! Not having to schedule shoots and caming time around your monthly inconvenience is a huge plus. No cramps, no purchase of feminine products and no more PMS. Although you will encounter other emotional and physical complications, the years of the inconvenient and unwanted period are gone.
Also, pregnancy scares no more. Menopause is the beginning of your reproductive system retiring from the baby making business. Now you won’t have to worry about missing your period being a potential pregnancy scare.
The end of hormonal headaches. If you have ever experienced severe headaches, they are often caused by your hormones. Although headaches are not gone forever, you will definitely feel a decrease in the hormonal pressures that once made your head feel like it was going to explode.
Uterine fibroids shrink. As you approach your middle age, it is common for you to develop fibroids which are uterine tumors which are almost always benign.
Greater self assurance. As you get older, you are usually more secure with yourself and feeling empowered. Many post menopausal women are able to find happiness after managing through many of the premenopausal symptoms.
Navigating Aging in Online Sex Work
So, we get that there are bonuses to aging, but how do you navigate getting older as a webcam performer, clips artist or adult entertainer? Here are some thoughts:
Self Care. This is the time to definitely take care of yourself. Nothing is more important than making sure that you are nurturing your emotional needs, physical needs and mental health.
Work smarter not harder. Implement time management and organizational methods to reduce stress and better make use of your time.
And don’t forget: Remove toxic people from your environment, budget your finances responsibly, plan for your future and set goals.
Ultimately, we are all going to reach that time in our lives when our body goes through chaotic changes. Being able to identify, easily adapt and find a work around for the many issues you will face will help you manage with little to no effect on your performances and adult entertainment income.
We are not getting older. We are getting better!
Kari “Platinum Puzzy” Anthony is an events trailblazer in the adult industry community. She created and organized BBWFANFEST, the first BBW niche trade and awards show recognizing plus size performers, and BBWCAMHOUSE — the first live 24-hour voyeur house filled with curvy adult stars, cam performers, dancers and more. Email her at firstname.lastname@example.org.
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