Hot on the heels of Locktober, we have No Nut November, resulting in two months of talk about chastity, orgasm control and refraining from ejaculation. Here is a rundown on the good, the bad and the ugly of these months and how you can explore these themes with your audience.
Experimenting with chastity and orgasm control can be a fun and stimulating experience. It can help people connect with their bodies in a way that we rarely encourage. I am referring here to mindful masturbation and mindfulness practice in general, so rather than just rubbing one out as quickly as possible, people can reflect on the how/when/why/where of their sexual experience.
Some people report increased clarity and energy when refraining from masturbation, although this could be attributed to the high we get from feeling empowered and in control of our bodies. In the sporting arena, the field is still split on whether masturbation before an important performance can be beneficial. Some argue that it is, while other say that refraining from ejaculation before a big game results in higher testosterone levels in male athletes, therefore leading to better performance.
Incorporating orgasm control into your content or live shows can heighten the excitement of the experience for your audience and keep them hooked. By directing them when to touch themselves, how to do it and when not to do it, your audience will be at your beck and call. There is a reason why orgasm control, chastity and the related categories of jerk off instruction and jerk off encouragement are so popular on clipsites!
Although there are some that argue that holding out from masturbation is good for your mind and body, there is little evidence that this is the case for the vast majority of people.
Men intentionally refraining from ejaculating can suffer from more than just the discomfort of “blue balls.” When we avoid masturbation, this can make us tense the muscles in our pelvic floor which can result in pain, excessive urination and constipation. The anxiety these symptoms produce can contribute to a cyclic effect; anxiety increases tension in this area which leads to increased symptoms.
Masturbation, orgasm and ejaculation can increase the amount of oxytocin naturally produced in your system, making you feel relaxed and calm, so holding out from these feel good chemicals may not be such a great thing. Refraining from masturbation and ejaculation has also been linked to increased risk of prostate cancer in men, particularly in the 20 – 40 year old age group.
No Nut November has been co-opted in recent years by anti-porn and anti-masturbation groups as a way of spreading their messages. These groups blame masturbation and porn consumption for a myriad of issues including “porn addiction,” erectile dysfunction and what is seen as the general “moral decline” in society.
The claims of health issues resulting from masturbation and ejaculation do not have basis in scientific evidence, and point more to the moral views held by these groups. The use of porn and masturbation as a method of escape is only problematic if it impacts on a person’s daily functioning and can be considered a symptom (rather than a root cause) of mental health issues. The shame connected with masturbation is still very real and perpetuated worldwide. Although refraining from masturbation and ejaculation can avoid feelings of shame, there are potential negative mental and physical effects from orgasm denial, as I have described earlier.
Although adult content creators should not be responsible for the sex education and mental health of their audiences, sometimes we are in a unique position to inform, encourage and explore healthy sexual expression. I see Locktober and No Nut November as opportunities to talk about masturbation, orgasm control and chastity with our communities, and explore the good, the bad and the ugly.
Rem Sequence is an Australian adult content creator, blogger and internationally published alt model. She has a background in psychology, philosophy and political science and has worked in health and sex education, youth work and trauma counseling for almost two decades. Contact Rem via firstname.lastname@example.org and visit her on Twitter at @remsequence.