Lilly May is the self-described Queen of Awkward, and she can skate hoops around you on the flat track.
When asked to share a fun fact about herself, she said (laughing), “I have no idea what I’m doing most of the time. [That’s] not exactly a FUN fact, but it’s a fact nonetheless.”
May’s “can do, just try it!” attitude coupled with an open honesty about who she truly is and what makes her comfortable have contributed to her successes on cam. She shared some of her insights with us recently – read on!
YNOT Cam: What prompted you to begin your career online?
Lilly May: I was on and off for about a year, but I’ve been back for good for two. I’m 25 years old, from Kansas. [Before cam] I worked at a restaurant, made and sold handmade hula hoops and YouTubed a bit. Nothing gave me the freedom I craved, it didn’t make me as happy as I am now and it definitely didn’t help my anxiety!
I actually had no idea what “camming” was. I was looking up “at home job” and randomly saw a link. When I clicked I was immediately intrigued. When I began, I was non-nude. I think it helped me get into this “new territory” slowly and comfortably.
Eventually I stopped thinking about what other people thought — you only got one life, right? — and decided to just do what I liked, full blast. Mistakes welcome.
What are some general observations you have about camming? Best things, worst things?
The best thing about camming for me is that you can surround yourself with the clients you WANT to be around, you don’t have to agree to anything you don’t like and you don’t even have to allow a slightly annoying person in your bubble. It’s hard to remember not to compare myself to some of the other AMAZING cammers out there — but once I realize I’m doing it, I can get past it.
Another thing is staying positive when no one’s talking! That’s when I have to tell myself to either come back in five minutes or just ignore it all to lip sync my heart out. That usually helps!
Something I’ve noticed is a lot of people tend to think camming isn’t actually work. Luckily, I get to block them.
Outside of camming, what are you most passionate about?
OH MY GOSH I freaking love derby and hula hoops! (I’m even saving up to go to circus school!)
Roller derby truly saved me. I was in low place in life, and I happened to randomly see a flier for a bout. I went and fell in love! The community is amazing and so accepting. I showed up to the first practice with little kid skates on, couldn’t skate whatsoever and had the biggest helmet ever on. It was hilarious in hindsight, but everyone was nothing but helpful. I get to blow off steam by knocking people on their asses, stay fit and have a family!
I’ve been hula hooping for six years, aerial hooping for three. It’s pretty much the only thing I’ve ever been graceful at. (I trip over everything, including my pants during cam.) It makes me feel beautiful and strong, and it’s something I can do to shut my mind away from everything else.
Don’t be scared to try it out yourself!
— Lilly May (@Lilly_MayHoop) May 9, 2018
Tell us about being “awkward” – it says that all over your social media. How does that quality work for you on cam?
I’m the freaking QUEEN of Awkward. When I first started, I thought I had to pretend to be super outgoing. It totally drained me.
It wasn’t until I started embracing the awkward that I started to get people coming to see me. I think it makes me a little more down-to-earth and approachable sometimes. I have to tell people ahead of time that I will be laughing during their entire private session — that’s just how I am. They usually just tell me it was great or that it helped them relax.
Nothing ever worked when I pretended to be someone else, so EMBRACE THE AWKWARD!
If you could change one thing about today’s world, what would it be and why?
Oh jeeze, I just want world peace, but how would we get closer to that? Yeah… there’s a lot I want to change, but I won’t get into that. All I will say is be the change you want to see in the world.
Erika is a sex positive people watcher (and writer). Email her at email@example.com.