By Mz. Kim
I teach an in-person workshop called “Monetizing Your Appeal Online: Content, Business Strategies for Models, Dommes.” I am also an actively working Asian online dominatrix. So, I don’t just teach it — I live it, and I work it.
But how can sex workers with careers centered online benefit from in-person workshops? Let me explain.
How can online sex workers benefit from in-person workshops?
This story begins at DomCon, the “world’s premier professional and lifestyle domination convention.” I saw that most of the women who attended were in-person dommes. When they found out about my work and my specializations, they were surprised to find out that I could make a very good living doing only online domination and online content production. They had lots of questions and preconceived notions about what it takes to do this work.
I saw that many professional dominatrices were intimidated and perhaps embarrassed that they did not know how to work online. Actually, people from all sorts of backgrounds wanted to learn how to do the work that I do once they found out about the possibilities. And the possibilities are many, while the limitations are few.
I also realized how invested I am in helping others through these classes because this work has given me so much. The life that I am able to live is made possible by this work. The life I left, in which I was terribly abused, was made possible by this work. The woman I am, the confidence that I hold, the relationships I have developed with other bad-ass sex workers — all of this is made possible by this work. So, teaching how to do this work finally made sense. It was time to pay it forward.
Here lie the true reasons behind sharing all of this knowledge and information. It’s not just in being bossy to other people. Putting the intelligent work into my business has given me a sense of self, growth, autonomy, creativity, confidence and success. I thought, How great would it be if others could find the same freedoms, creativity, money and fun?
I started thinking about what makes my online business successful. It’s a mixture of making brutally honest self-evaluations, prioritizing content strategies, gathering tools, assessing costs and honing skills. Last but not least, really loving the work that I do, the freedom it provides, and the autonomy and creativity I have in my own life are key factors. I am my own boss, in addition to being the boss of many.
An In-Person Course Teaching Online Skills
From start to finish, the workshop is about three and a half hours of a beginner’s class, followed by an advanced class. I teach the basics of sex work — the start-up costs and necessities, self-evaluation, online content, strategies and marketing and what actions to take. Then, I tailor the advanced class to the participants after getting a feel for the levels at which they are already working.
Figuring out how to get all of this in a presentation that isn’t a complete snoozefest was a challenge. I didn’t want to just stand there and lecture. Fortunately, I am able to pepper in lots of stories and real-life anecdotes that seem to get everyone engaged and laughing.
One of my students wrote this:
I really enjoyed your class in SF & have been busy ever since b/c I’ve been taking your advice. I am already seeing a dramatic increase in my traffic, income & understanding of online marketing.
When teaching, Mz. Kim brings an incredible level of presence, professionalism, and information to her classes. Along with being organized, she has a diverse knowledge base that is eternally fascinating to learn from. As a teacher, Mz. Kim does an excellent job of tying in personal anecdotes and humor that enrich your learning experience. As a coach, Mz. Kim is thoughtful and inventive, and you can feel that she truly wants to help you achieve your goals. I am grateful for the wisdom Mz. Kim has shared with me.
These reviews bring such an immense feeling of satisfaction.
Community: An Added Benefit of In-Person Learning
Something has stood out during the workshops I have taught: community. Sex work can be isolating. That’s part of the draw, actually. But that’s also the double-edged sword. We can work alone and be left alone. But then, we are alone.
Another of the limitations of this work is stigma, which can weigh down on us in ways we don’t realize. Talking to others dealing with the same issues and sharing solutions — this is something valuable that a real-time class can provide.
I wish that I had this kind of class when I was starting out in online sex work. And sometimes, it’s been hard to show sex workers that this class can be useful to them. As Domina Snow, a personal friend said, “We always teach the most important things that our younger selves needed to know, but it never seems to be received with the same value.”
Still, I hope that more people and sex workers will let me teach them. Once they step into my workshop, they will see just how valuable this information is and how important it is to meet others in the same community — and I hope that I will get to hear how this work has changed their lives, as they have changed mine.
She has future classes scheduled in New Orleans, LA during March 202o. Contact Mz. Kim directly for more information on future workshops.
I'm teaching my 2-class workshop in Las Vegas!
Monetizing Your Appeal
Online Content, Strategies for Models, Dommes
January 21, 2020 1:00-4:00 p.m.
New Blog post has all the info!https://t.co/8Qy2Z3MXYq
— ?️ Mz.Kim ?️ AVN Nominee, Las Vegas 01/21-26 (@MzKimAP) January 4, 2020
Mz. Kim is an online domme and community guru. Read her insightful interview with YNOT Cam right here.